I have heard two arguments: One that self-love is most important and one for self-improvement is the most important. Why not both? Why can’t self-improvement be a form of self-love?
Today, if you haven’t guessed, we are talking about How to Balance Self-Love & Self-Improvement and how BOTH are so, so important.
First, we have to establish what these two things are before we get into it. According to Google’s Dictionary (I know, the most reliable source of information) here is the definition of self-love:
- regard for one’s own well-being and happiness (chiefly considered as a desirable rather than narcissistic characteristic).
To put in my own terms, self-love is taking time to care for yourself, your needs (physically, emotionally, & spiritually) and learning how to accept yourself as you are. Trying to see yourself with love and kindness rather than with cruel and harsh self criticism.
Next, Google’s fine definition of self-improvement goes as follows:
the improvement of one’s knowledge, status, or character by one’s own efforts.
Self-improvement, to me is expanding and bettering yourself. Whether it be big or small, physical or mental, or simply learning a new skill…self-improvement is looking at yourself (kindly) and seeing where you could better yourself and be the best you…you can be.
Do you see why maybe people could see these two things as incompatible? If not, the reason is: self-love focuses on loving yourself as you are, while self-improvement focuses on analyzing yourself and looking for ways to…well, improve.
Here is my personal theory. I think that you cannot have one without the other. You cannot IMPROVE if you do not LOVE and care about yourself enough to change. And you cannot fully love yourself if you cannot look and see that you could improve in areas…and still love and appreciate who you are.
That being said…I challenge you to look at yourself. The good and the bad…and appreciate ALL of it. Your quirks and your mistakes. Your successes and your favorite feature. Take time for yourself whether it be reading a book or taking a nice bath…take time to just ACCEPT all that you are.
Then, when you are ready…work on the mistake and the gaps in knowledge with kindness and compassion. You have already done so much by recognizing that there may be ways to better yourself. Self-improvement is not being unloving to yourself, but rather loving enough to want to better your life and your situation.
I hope that came across how I was wanting. That is all for today, I will see you all Friday, and remember…there is room for both self-love and self-improvement in your life.